I’ll be the first to say that displaying genuine love and forgiveness to someone you believe may have wronged you or hurt you is one of the toughest actions that God calls us to do. Before I was fully able to comprehend why and how God wanted me to do this, I would ask myself questions such as “They have hurt me so badly. How could I possibly love and forgive them?” and “They aren’t showing me any type of love or forgiveness. Why do they deserve to have any from me?” I’ll be honest and tell you that it took me a while to be able to do that. It wasn’t until recently that I discovered the power of being able to genuinely display love and forgiveness to everyone, even if they don’t deserve it.
After having recently gone through a really tough time, I gave myself a lot of time to reflect on the situation, why God allowed such an event to occur, and how I was to supposed to react to it. I really dived into the Word of God and if you haven’t had the chance to do it, I highly recommend searching for answers to any questions you may have in the Bible. God’s Word became my main resource for anything I needed, whether it was anxiety, how to love properly, worry, stress, anger, etc.
What really stood out to me was reading about God’s love for us. Throughout the Bible, God shows time and time again that He loves us no matter what. When I started to think on this, I came to the conclusion that if God is willing to die on the cross for me (when I am so undeserving of God’s sacrifice) because God loves me, why can’t I be able to show that love to everyone around me no matter what?
Colossians 3:13-14 – “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
After reading verses such as the one above, I prayed to God every day asking that I be able to truly love and forgive whoever may have wronged me. I also asked God to take away any anger and resentment and to replace those feelings with His holy spirit.
Personally, someone in my life believes that I hate them because I have a legitimate reason to because of how they hurt me. But, I can honestly say that I do not hate this person, nor do I have any anger or resentment for past actions. I understand that everyone has their flaws and I accept the person for who they are no matter what. Because I understand God called me to, I am able to display genuine love and forgiveness to this specific individual and I hope one day they’ll be able to recognize that I do not hate them.
Someone may hate you, someone may wrong you, but in the end, God calls each and every one of us to display love and forgiveness even through the toughest of times.
Romans 12:9-10 – “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”